Honoring the hurtful feelings of Mother's Day
Honoring the hurtful feelings of Mother's Day
Now that Mother's Day excitement fills the air like a beautiful summer vacation day, I pause to think of those of you for whom this Sunday brings unpleasant memories. You feel pain, powerless, and sorrow.For some of you, this turns out to be the first big holiday without mom. For some moms among you, this celebration rehashes the fresh and deep sorrowful void that cold icy death hacked in your hearts. Grim Reaper plucked the pupil of your eye away this past year.
For many more among you, Mother's Day is an excruciating reminder that you’ll never be the mother you’ve always wanted to be. You’ll never have your own biological children.
Although this is painful beyond words, honor, as I honor, whatever hurtful feelings this holiday triggers in you.
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This day also reminds some of us that we will always carry an empty feeling inside, we will never have our own mothers day as well as all the other things being a mother brings, it is the reminder of your failings as a woman and it is the reminder of dreams that are lost forever. For some people this is a dark day.
Posted by: Debby | May 10, 2008 08:43 PM
Thank you, Debby, for your comment. At times like this I wonder what anyone can do for a woman like you. I posted this blog as an act of solidarity with you. Please know that you are not alone in this. And I honor the pain that you are going through.
Posted by: Kwami | May 10, 2008 10:40 PM
I miss my Mother who, though she is alive, is a different person altogether, due to Alzheimer's Disease. I miss the Mother that I know and knows me. She is gone and there is an unrecognizable person inside her skin---it's disconcerting and confusing.
Posted by: Elizabeth | May 11, 2008 01:46 PM
You remind us, Elizabeth, that there are children like you whose mothers are suffering terminal illnesses. Alzheimer's Disease is just one of them. Thanks for the reminder. May your memories of motherly love for you see you through this day and the rest of her life..
Posted by: Kwami | May 11, 2008 04:29 PM